Many Highly Sensitive Introverts avoid conflict. Here are 4 steps to help you deal with conflict constructively when avoidance isn’t the best strategy.
If You’re Used To Feeling Like It’s Your Fault
Anger is an emotion I shelve incorrectly, often. I will instead feel hurt and ashamed when being angry would be the most fitting emotion.
Shame Is Not The Same As Guilt
Do you know the difference between shame and guilt and why the difference is important? I didn’t. Not until I started reading up on it, anyway. It made me go back and think about some of my experiences a little differently. Part of why shame and guilt are confused is because it’s easier to talk about guilt than it is to …
Shame Is The Hole In Chapter One
Six months ago if you’d asked me if I experienced shame, I would’ve laughed at the suggestion. I’ve accomplished a lot. What would I have to feel shame about? I’m not laughing now. Several months ago, I left in tears after an “informational interview” with a Director of a large social services agency. I was nervous, but I’d prepared well. …
The Problem With Happy
What if seeking happiness is just another way of making ourselves miserable by not being present? Yesterday, everything gelled. Things came easily and in a flow that felt almost magical. I said the right things at the right time and connected with the people I saw. Today, it’s like nothing came out right, and everything was off. Yesterday I felt …
The Rubberband Effect
If you’ve ever tried to make a little or a big change in your life, you’ve probably experienced what I affectionately call the Rubberband Effect. A change in diet? Exercise? Self limiting beliefs? Relationship? Just getting up earlier? You start in on making a change, and if you’re like me, you’ve at least once in your life felt the Thwack! of …
After Drinking from the Firehose: Seth Godin’s 2015 Inaugural altMBA
It’s been about three days after the last drink from the firehose of information we were promised in Seth Godin’s 2015 Inaugural altMBA course, a 31 day sprint of learning what it takes to make big change in the world. I’m still letting the sediment settle so I can get some perspective on what just happened. But maybe that’s the …
Who Else Wants to Be Understood? A New Definition of Introvert?
Language matters. Because language holds power. What might come out of our mouths could be, at times, a jumbled mess, or even non-sensical transposed first letters of subsequent words. Sometimes our minds might buzz like poorly tuned radio stations when put on the spot in social situations.